I know, I know… this is not a date idea or anything romantic like that. It may not sound like it but it is an extremely good tip for keeping romance alive and breathing.
APOLOGY! Learning to say you are sorry is a skill used by many but mastered by none.
If you were to say to me that you are really good at apologizing that would be good… however, it also means that you are even better at putting yourself into positions where you need to apologize and that is not good! Having the ability and humility to say you are sorry is a trait that is attractive to women, especially if you are sincere about it.
There are techniques for a successful apology. You need to keep everything limited and focused on YOU and YOUR behavior. “I am sorry that I made you feel…” “I am sorry that what I said came out that way.”
“I am sorry that I…” is always how it should start, and NEVER, EVER should it be followed with the words “but” or “you.” It is true that it takes two to tango but you can not apologize for her behavior. That is something she will have to do on her own. It may come at the same time you are saying it, but don’t expect that. You may have to wait for it.
You may even need to explain why you reacted the way you did, or why you put yourself in a particular position. Again, you have to keep it all about yourself and limit the correcting or scolding statements. “What you said made me angry because…” “I feel insulted when you…” These are statements that can address the ‘why’ with out putting blame on your Love. It keeps the direction of blame focused securely on you! It’s different then saying, “Because you said that I said this…” You are blaming her for making you react the way you did. Don’t say that!
All of this is easier said than done, but showing your humility and sincere need to fix & protect your Love’s heart is an important step in romance.
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