Romance is a Mindset

When men think Romance, they usually think of the end goal, right?  But one of the best lessons you can learn in a relationship, is that romance is a mindset in addition to an activity!   When my wife and I were first married, we agreed we should never talk bad about each other… ever!  Not to our friends, not to our coworkers, not to each other.  This seems like it would be a difficult agreement to keep, but in reality, once you have it in your head speaking poorly of them is not an option, it’s actually pretty easy.  It also makes sure that if something is bugging you – you speak up so it doesn’t fester.  It opens communications because they are the only ones you can discuss it with, so you have to face the problem head on.  These discussions about what’s important keep the relationship going, and ensure small things are resolved before they become a big problem. Speaking about your significant other, only in the highest regard, also helps foster a positive image of them.  This positive image is the first step to keeping the relationship happy.  In addition, because there will be a level of trust you and your partner have created, it makes romantic situations easier to create and follow through with as well, because you have a romantic mindset already created.  This won’t happen overnight, and believe me it takes effort.  After awhile, you start to listen to other couples and hear how often they speak poorly of their spouse, take comfort that you are creating a better environment for both you and your spouse!